Why We Lie – A Mindset Perspective

Lying is as old as human civilization. From school corridors to corporate boardrooms, from sports arenas to politics—it’s everywhere. But why do we lie? More importantly, should we be blaming our education system for it?

What is a Lie?

Bill Clinton once asked Monica Lewinsky to lie—or was it to lie down? (Well, that’s a discussion for another day!)

From doping in sports to extra-marital affairs and cheating in exams, lies have become an art form. But here’s a question—is our examination system to blame for cheating?

Think about it: we have confused copying with cheating.

All our lives, we have copied—from nature, from good ideas, from our siblings. Yet, the moment a student peeks at a friend’s answer sheet, we label it as cheating. Are we forcing our kids into dishonesty by placing performance pressure over learning? When we compel them to read, pray, or sit for an ill-prepared exam, are we setting them up for deception?

The Burden of Lies in Education

The education system carries a heavy responsibility. It is not just about grades but about values, ethics, and mindset. A school should nurture curiosity, not fear; learning, not rote memorization.

But what about everyday small lies? The so-called white lies we tell to avoid awkward moments?

The Pinocchio Effect – When Lies Grow

Research in courtrooms suggests an interesting phenomenon. When you swear an oath on a holy book before testifying, you are more truthful than if you merely sign a legal document after making a statement.

Before an action, we are conscious. Afterward, we are merely careful.

Mindset Coaching – Creating Truthful Environments

As a Mindset Coach, I believe that honesty is cultivated, not enforced. Schools, workplaces, and homes should focus on fostering authenticity rather than punishing dishonesty.

So, the next time you catch a student “cheating,” ask yourself—are they lying, or are they just reacting to the system we’ve built?

Let’s rethink learning, integrity, and the power of mindset. Drop your thoughts in the comments—is lying a natural instinct, or a social construct?

About the Author: Dr. Dawood Vaid is an Educationist, Mindset Coach, and Speaker who believes in redefining learning with humour, wit, and a fresh perspective. He is passionate about life skills, SDGs, and fostering a love for knowledge beyond textbooks.